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From the Cold to the Warmth

Who am I?

Who am I?
I moved from Norway to Spain. From snow to the beach. And on an inner level, years later, I made the same journey. From being a perfectionist, efficient, ambitious, and emotionally blocked person, to seeking my open, spontaneous, compassionate, patient, kind, and loving sides.

By becoming aware of these extremes in me — and their strengths and weaknesses— I can live well. I can be loving and efficient at the same time, patient and productive, ambitious and respectful. Both with myself and with others. The key has been unlocking and accepting these different aspects and capabilities within me. Letting go of judgment and living who I truly am.

This way I’ve been able to say goodbye to fears and anxiety. Life isn’t a dance on roses all the time rather, a dance across realities of all shapes and colors. By embracing the strength of my masculinity, I also welcome the strength of the feminine and the instinctive, all together as three forces of life.

With You All the Way

I like to see things through — especially when it comes to the personal journeys of those I support. It means a deep commitment to be present and not abandon the process until you feel ready to move forward on your own. Of course, you always have the freedom to end our work together when you please and continue in another way. Individual freedom is a non-negotiable value.

Deeply rooted in me is the belief that everyone has the capacity to live a balanced life — when they gain a deep enough understanding of themselves and their surroundings. But often, we’re not fully equipped to get there on our own and we need support to understand ourselves, to make informed decisions, and become lifelong learners of ourselves and life.

This is why I define myself as an Integrative Therapist with a conscious and masculine perspective.

The essence of change lies in wanting it —and build the trust in ourselves that it’s possible.

– Frode Huse Gjendem

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Years of Experience

Love is a Source for Healing

A caring and compassionate approach has immense power — both in accompanying someone and as a way of relating to oneself. I believe benevolent, kind, and loving attitudes are essential for a healthy life. In my experience, people who learn to move from a place of love are strong and grounded —they know who they are and what’s good for them.

To be loving means tapping into a deep well of energy that enables natural and spontaneous behaviors, like self-care, setting boundaries in relationships, defend who you are and make wise decisions.

Here are some classic questions to reflect on:

Do you notice the difference between relief and joy? Relief is tied to fear, while joy stems from a positive experience.
Do you experience Pressure and Expectations in your sexuality ?
Can you consider the idea of your own death with calm or fear? How do you experience the idea of losing someone you love?

Although we can’t always see it, our fears condition us and stop us from living freely in the present. This can show up as anxiety, stress, avoidance-based decisions, and more. Treating ourselves with, for example, compassion, acceptance and forgiveness (different expressions of love) is a powerful step in a personal transformation.

So, What Does Love Have To Do With It?

Since the birth of psychology —barely 200 years ago— much attention has been placed on severe disorders and psicopathologies. However, in science, philosophy, religion and many spiritual traditions, there’s a long history of enlightened men and women whose wisdom still challenges modern science. The human experience is so complex that researchers are only beginning to scratch the surface. Therefore, most approaches to self developement and finding oneself goes beyond traditional Psychotherapy and include compassion and other aspects of love.

Who Was I —and Who Am I?

My Journey Into This Profession

Over the years, I’ve gone through various phases of reinvention and personal transformation, gaining a deep understanding of the struggles and challenges of feeling and being different. Life has brought me many changes —in myself and in my surroundings.

Examples of changes are changed countries of residence, social class, been divorced, lost myself emotionally and found myself again. The most rigid phases in my way of being were also the hardest. I didn’t adapt but pushed forward without stopping ask myslef what was really going on. That brought suffering and emotional disconnection, eventually leading to constant exhaustion and difficulty forming deep and lasting relationships.

Only when I had exhausted all my ambitions did the real question arise:
“How do I really want to live my life?”

That moment sparked a transformation —a return to deeper connection with myself, my loved ones, and my friends. Professionally, it led me to leaveing my career as an business executive and begin a journey into human-centered work. Becoming a therapist has been one of the most rewarding decisions of my life.

In my journey I’ve worked as a truck mechanic, soldier, student, economist, high-level executive, and now, as someone who supports others.

Life has prepared me for this role: I’m a divorced, co-parenting father, I’ve worked in dozens of countries and cultures, I’ve lived half my life in Norway and the other half in Spain, and I’ve known both success and failure.

In becoming a therapist, I’ve gathered a wide range of personal and group experiences, including: Gestalt Therapy training at Gestalt Terra, Somatic Sex Therapy at SOMA, the SAT Program (Claudio Naranjo), the Amar Program (Lluís Fusté), and years of practice in Tibetan Buddhism. I’ve also volunteer in the SAT Introduction and in end-of-life care.

Healing is touching with love what was once touched with fear.

– Sandra Triay